People have been marrying for centuries, yet it seems like getting married is still considered a difficult choice, due to the numerous problems that can appear between people that choose to spend most of their time together, living in the same house, and possibly having children later down the road. As our values continue to change on a day-to-day basis, those related to marriage do so as well.
In this article, we will attempt to discuss some of the main issues that often arise in long-term relationships and marriages, in all regions of the world.
1. What makes couples stay together
To kick things off, a successful couple will always prioritize spending time together. While work will often get in the way of this, they often have set days or periods during the day, where they shut everything not related to their relationship out, and simply spend time together. Who says that after you get married you’ll have to give up romantic dates, trips and everything else that made you happy before?
Not only this, but it has been proven that some of the other great traits associated with successful marriages, include learning how to listen to, and empathize with the other person; expressing your appreciation, agreeing upon the important issues from the beginning, trying their best to minimize the appearance of fights; and committing to one another from the start to the very end.
2. The main reasons for divorce
Having a divorce is definitely not the end of the world, but understanding the main reasons on why it often ends like this is important. With this in mind, infidelity is the number one reason, as extra-marital affairs are the biggest cause for the breakdown of marriages from all around the world. Some of the other issues that are often encountered include numerous fights about money, lack of communication, lack of equality, lack of intimacy, unrealistic expectations, constant fighting for no reason at all, domestic abuse, and alcoholism.
3. Is marrying more people in a lifetime taboo?
Having your first marriage end in a divorce after a couple of years shouldn’t be the end of the world for neither you, nor your partner. It is therefore important to understand the fact that with time, people tend to change, forget to love and, hence properly communicate with their loved-ones. Because of this, many marriages often end up in divorces. Having to stick to a single partner for your entire life is a principle that became obsolete many years ago. If your first marriage ended, why shouldn’t you go out again and seek happiness? If your second marriage ends to, slow down, recalculate your life choices and give it another go! The perfect person for you may be hiding right around the corner. So, seek them out, and if it feels like it, marry them. There’s no shame in having multiple partners over your lifetime.
4. Is there less pressure to get married nowadays?
As mentioned earlier in this article, as the world continues to evolve, values continue to change. Who knows, maybe some of the values that we all consider essential will become obsolete in a couple of years.
Recently, Slater & Gordon carried out a survey to gauge the public perception of all things marriage related and found that 69% of people these days feel there is less pressure to get married than there was 10 years ago. Numerous reports have also confirmed the same thing that marriage isn’t really a priority for most people, especially those living in urban areas, and carrying out busy lives. Most people prefer to focus on work and on their circle of friends, rather than investing the time needed to build a long-term relationship that will eventually turn into a marriage. So yes, the pressure on getting married today is significantly lower than what it was like many years ago. After all, most people have put arranged marriages which were considered the norm, back in the day, in the past. Upon reaching a certain age, chances are that some people may ask if you are married, but not many will think down on you, for not having found a partner, or having had a divorce in the past. It’s the circle of life. If it makes you happy, seek it!
Based on everything that has been outlined so far, marriage is no longer considered a priority today, but if you want to do it, nobody will judge or blame you for it. Not only this, but it is okay to have multiple partners in your lifetime, and learn more about life from each of them. However, it is important to cultivate your relationship with other people, and avoid focusing on yourself only. It has been shown that this will likely help you lead a happier life in the future, regardless of whether you end up marrying that special person or not. Whatever your choice is, nothing about marriage is really taboo anymore for most people.